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INFORMATION ABOUT TORN ASUNDER AFFAIR RECOVERY PROGRAMME
1. What is the Torn Asunder (TA) Programme?

The Torn Asunder Affair Recovery Programme is a structured recovery process designed to focus and help individual couple heal from affairs.  It is a product of 30 years of research and fieldwork.  The Torn Asunder Recovery Programme was founded by an established marriage counsellor, Dave Carder.

 

The Programme helps couples stabilize their marriage in the initial crisis of affair discovery, provides structure for this emotionally volatile time and enables them to sort through the particular factors that led them to their infidelity and map out a recovery process for both partners.

 

During the recovery process couples will be able to:

 

  • Answer the questions: How could you do this to me? Why did you do it?
  • Bring closure to the “old” marriage– the marriage prior to the affair
  • Prepare for and process forgiveness
  • Rebuild trust
  • Set established skills necessary for the “new” marriage pattern

 

The programme addresses 3 different types of infidelity-sexual, visual (e.g. pornography) and emotional.

 

All of our counsellors are certified facilitators of The Torn Asunder Affair Recovery Programme. We are committed to supporting and helping you to the best of our efforts and expertise.

 

To make an appointment with us, please complete our Torn Asunder Programme Intake Form:

We will respond within 3 working days.

 

Confidentiality Assured

Your identity and information shared are strictly confidential and will not be revealed to any external parties without your permission.  However, if the situation involves threats to yourself, others and properties, criminal acts or intentions, we are liable to disclose the information to the relevant authorities.

2. What are the charges for the Torn Asunder programme?

The Torn Asunder Program cost $900/- per couple.  ($150/- per couple per session)

The couple will also be required to purchase a manual and a workbook each as part of the program. The total cost of the manual and the 2 workbooks is $75/-

Full payment of $975/- must be made in advance before the start of the program.

3. How long is one Torn Asunder session?

One session is about 1 ½ hours.

4. How many sessions does a couple need to attend?

7 sessions (includes a  Consultation Session: Counsellor to make assessment of couple before 1st session starts)

5. When would be the day & timing of the Torn Asunder session?

All our counselling sessions are by appointment. The assigned counsellor will call or email you to arrange an appointment, which is either during office/off-peak hours or peak hours as follows:

 

 

  • Office/off-peak hours Mon to Fri, 9am-6pm
  • Peak hours Mon & Wed, 6pm-9pm

 

Please note that opting for office/off-peak hours expedites appointments, and a surcharge of $20 applies for peak hour appointments.

6. Will there be cancellation charges if I missed an appointment?

All our counselling sessions are by appointment. The assigned counsellor will call or email you to arrange an appointment, which is either during office/off-peak hours or peak hours as follows:
Office/off-peak hours Mon to Fri, 9am-6pm
Peak hours Mon & Wed, 6pm-9pm
Every first Sat, 9am-1pm
Please note that opting for office/off-peak hours expedites appointments, and a surcharge of $20 applies for peak hour appointments.

7. Will there be cancellation charges if I missed an appointment?

For cancellation of counselling appointment without 24 hours (working day) prior notice, a $30 cancellation charge would be imposed.

8. What happens if only one party is willing to attend the Torn Asunder programme?

Torn Asunder programme requires both parties to attend the sessions. In cases where only one party is motivated, we will not be able to offer the programme but we will see the willing party for counselling to work through his or her issues.

9. What happens if only one party is willing to attend the Torn Asunder programme?

Torn Asunder programme requires both parties to attend the sessions. In cases where only one party is motivated, we will not be able to offer the programme but we will see the willing party for counselling to work through his or her issues.

10. What are your counsellors’ qualifications?

Our counsellors have a Post-graduate Diploma in Counselling or Bachelor degree in Social work and/or Masters in Counselling.

11. Can I request for a male or female counsellor as my partner is more comfortable with a male/female counsellor?

Yes, we will try our best to meet your needs, but it is subject to the availability of our counsellors. Both the client and counsellor would have to mutually agree on the day and time of the counselling sessions that fit both parties’ schedules.

12. Can I request for a particular counsellor recommended to me through my personal contact?

Yes, we will try our best to accommodate your request, subject to the availability of our counsellor.

13. Is there confidentiality in the information provided when I attend the Torn Asunder programme?

All information provided by you and your partner is kept confidential with the following exceptions:

  1. When the counsellor makes an assessment that there is foreseeable suicide risk
  2. When the client acknowledges ongoing instances of incest, rape, abuse of a child, adult, elderly or disabled person
  3. When the client reveals his/her intention to commit a crime or when he/she is assessed to be in danger to self, others and or society
  4. When the information is subpoenaed by the court and/or the Ministry of Social & Family Development and/or National Council of Social Service.

The counsellor is bound ethically and legally to inform the relevant authorities in the above cases.